Celebrating the Birthday of Mary Frances Cunningham (Mother Demetrias)

“For the love of God, let me go…”
                                                                              –Mary Frances  Cunningham, Founder                                                                                  Mission Helpers of the Sacred Heart                                                                                  1859-1940

Born on October 8, 1859, Mary Frances Cunningham grew up in Washington, DC, in the shadow of a Union Army Barracks during the bloody years of the Civil War.

Her parents, both Irish immigrants, had 13 children; Mary Frances was the oldest.

When she was 10 years old, the family moved to Baltimore, where thousands of freed slaves had settled following the Emancipation Act of 1863.  “It was a time,” wrote a Catholic historian, “…when the majority of the colored people were thrown into an entirely different mode of life [that] caused great evils…colored Catholics fell away by the thousands…”

As a young woman in Baltimore in the 1880s, Mary Frances was a devout and active member of St. Martin’s Parish in West Baltimore. She was distressed to see that the black children in the neighborhood were not allowed to receive religious instruction in the church.

The feisty Mary Frances requested and received permission to form a Sunday School for the children and teach them on the steps of the church.  One Sunday morning it rained and she took the children into the church basement, a major breakthrough in the late 1880s.

She soon partnered with other women who were working with black children and their families elsewhere in Baltimore.  They were known as the St. Joseph’s Guild.  In 1890 the women leased a house and began readying it for a retreat, which they hoped would help them to discern the will of God.

At the end of the retreat, the women felt that God had willed the foundation of a community devoted to the religious instruction of black people.  James Cardinal Gibbons—the first American Cardinal—accepted and approved the decision, and candidates for membership were received and resided in the house.

But Mary Frances Cunningham needed the permission of her pastor to join the new endeavor.  He refused.  She went to him repeatedly, but he continued to withhold his permission.  Finally, according to the Mission Helpers archives, “she threw herself onto her knees before him and pleaded:  ‘For the love of God, let me go!’

The priest finally agreed to let Cardinal Gibbons decide the matter and he did, with the words:  “Let her go; something may come of it.”

And so began the work of the Mission Helpers of the Sacred Heart.

Happy Birthday, Mary Frances Cunningham, a.k.a. Mother Demetrias

0 thoughts on “Celebrating the Birthday of Mary Frances Cunningham (Mother Demetrias)

  1. What a beautiful, Spirit-filled person Mary Frances was! I see her spirit reflected in so many Mission Helpers that I know. God bless! Dolores SSJ

  2. Im currently doing geneology research on my family and i would like to find the author on this article as my grandmother was Mother Demetrias niece….Im trying to fill in some names on the family tree and this certainly would be a great help!

    1. let me correct that my grandmother is her grandniece…i have a book about Mother Demetrias that was inscribed to Mother Demetrias grandniece Audrey (my grandmother) from the Mission Helpers of The Sacred Heart

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